kasia laviers

Shadow Work for the Exhausted Healer If you spend your life holding space for others—as a mother, caregiver, space-holder, or healer—you may know the feeling intimately. The weekend has arrived. Your to do list is under control. Yet instead of diving into quality time with your family, you feel a sudden, overwhelming urge to simply… hide. Modern wellness culture often presents “shadow work” as a dramatic excavation of our deepest traumas and darkest impulses. But for those of us who are...

A couple of weeks ago, my body finally forced me to stop. After months of pushing through what I thought was simply the heavy emotional weight of daily life, a blood test revealed iron deficiency with anaemia. My ferritin was 8 µg/L: a sign that my iron stores were significantly depleted. The shock was profound. I genuinely believed I was eating well, preparing nourishing meals, and giving my physical body everything it needed to thrive. But looking at those numbers, the thick brain fog,...

We have all heard the quote: “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” It is painted on wooden signs, shared in well-meaning spiritual circles, and offered as advice when we have been deeply hurt. Society, and often our faith traditions, place a heavy expectation on us to quickly forgive those who cross our boundaries. We are told that "letting it go" is the only way to prove we are good, spiritual, or healed. But what if this pressure to forgive too...